Imagine a room filled with 100 men.
What would your process be to find a man or men who you would consider going out with?
Talk to every man in the room to get to know one by one before you decide there is a match or not.
You pick men by your preference. For example, what clothes he wears, how tall he is, what color his hair is, how fit he is, etc. Then, out of that group, you would pick men.
You ask the following question to all men and gather them into groups.
“Are you looking for a serious relationship?”
If he says yes, he is put into one group with all the men who say yes. You spend time with the men in this group to determine with whom you want to go out if any. You don’t even care about the men in the other group.
Option 1 takes too long and you would waste a lot of time.
Option 2 looks like how people pick persons to go out with in general.
Let’s take a look at Option 3.
If you are serious about getting into a relationship, why would you date someone who is not interested in relationships? You wouldn’t and shouldn’t.
If you knew that the guy you were seeing was not into a committed relationship, you wouldn’t have wasted months wondering where it was going, would you?
I know it sounds so dry, but it makes sense, doesn’t it?
Dating with purpose is like this.
You have your goal in mind and choose the men to go out with. During the process (A series of dates), if you find out that he is really not a relationship material, you can always let him go.
I see articles about how to get a guy. It sounds wrong to me.
If he is not interested in having a relationship with you, it’s a waste of time for you to even try to “get the guy”.
Do you have to try to convince him to be in a relationship with you? Is that what you have to do?
It seems there are lots of investing on your side, but not his.
Have a clear intention of what you are looking for.